Point P: The 10 Keys of Prostate Orgasm

prostate massageProstate orgasm is still surrounded by taboos. Different from the penis, more centered on the outside, it opens the field of enjoyment to new sensations. The keys, step by step, with Nathalie Giraud-Desforges, sex therapist.

What is prostatic orgasm?

The prostate is a gland that contains seminal fluid. It is located under the bladder, at the front of the rectum. It must go through a rectal examination to stimulate it, it can be done with the finger or with a sex toy suitable for this purpose. The sensations associated with it diffuse inside the body, unlike the penis, directed outwards.

“I did not know it could exist,” says Marc. “I was breathing and it was starting again,” Julien is still surprised. “Is that the famous sexual energy we are talking about?” asks Gerard. Generally, orgasm is associated with penile ejaculation, an external manifestation, but the prostatic version is radically different, more internal. We talk about point P (prostate) in men as we talk about G-spot in women. “Men are witnessing a deeper orgasm, almost an ecstasy, probably close to the female orgasm. It breaks waves, or ignites the body, with pleasure,” says Nathalie Giraud-Desforges, sex therapist. If the perceptions are different, the means to achieve that too. The men agree on this point, the prostatic orgasm is learned and tamed.

Stimulation of the prostate: what is the right position?

Access to this area, when soloed, is easier in some positions. Since the relaxation factor is important, finding the one that suits you best is also important. Those favored by men are:

  • Position in rifle, knees brought to you, and both hands available;
  • The position on the back, the buttocks raised on a cushion, the knees bent or brought back to you.

How to stimulate the prostate?

A good stimulation requires some precautions of use, namely a hygiene of the anal area irreproachable, like that of the fingers. Well-cut nails are preferable, to avoid getting hurt. Provide a lubricant. Privilege a tiered approach, such as preliminaries. The massage is first external. Tap the perineal acupressure area (located between the sex and the anus). Then massage the anus so that it opens, by small circular movements, without hitting the mucous membranes, very sensitive to this place. Then massage the prostate, a finger in the rectum. This highly vascularized area reacts to heat and back-and-forth movement. Attention, it is located near the bladder, you can have a desire to pee.

Allow yourself to take pleasure

It is an area surrounded by many taboos. It is often associated with a “dirty”, “homosexual” or medical area with digital rectal examination indicated for prostate cancer screening. The main key to the pleasure is to allow yourself to invest this area, and to pass from the penetrating man to the penetrated man. Then, it is possible to benefit from its virtues of enjoyment. Another important element: “Having fun is not going to change your sexual orientation, if you are straight,” reassures the sex therapist.

Breathing, key element to access pleasure

Pay attention to your breathing! “It is possible that you retain it, or that it is jerky. Take further breaths, to let the energy circulate and invade your entire body” recommends Nathalie Giraud-Desforges. The virtues of breathing are proven: it allows to relax the mind, to focus on his feelings, and to leave aside the critical parts. Breathing allows you to come back to you: the effects of relaxation and relaxation are amplified, thus promoting access to pleasure.

Focus on your feelings

The usual sensations associated with male pleasure are external, with the notion of growing excitement. Here, they are new sensations, rectal contractions, micro-sensations that you probably do not pay attention usually. The orgasmic wave “prostatic” comes with small steps, micro-contractions. “There is no immediate explosion, it’s progressive!” says our expert. It takes patience, perseverance and coming back. Listening is not easy!

Point P: Squirting without the penis

You may be tempted to return to a more familiar mode, and grab your sex, for “acme”. Resist to keep exploring what’s going on differently. Leave your sex aside for a moment. Tame this area. Allow time for micro-sensations to reach the brain, and for your body to continue the experiment.

P-point solo or duet

The best way to start is to explore prostate orgasm solo, to tame these new sensations at your own pace. “Take this time just for you, explore smoothly, without waiting” insists Nathalie Giraud Desforges. It’s a slow exploration that takes time. With a partner put a frame, if it’s possible. Ask him to be there for you, to progress little by little listening to your feelings.

The sex toy: instructions for use

instructionSolo prostate massage with your finger is not always easy. It’s not so comfortable. “For some, a sex toy adapted to go beyond certain resistance” explains our expert. Choose a sex toy that fits your anatomy, preferably non-vibrating, to begin with. It should not be too big, too big, or too curved. Ask for advice. The best performers are prostate stimulators, designed for this purpose.

How to use: Avoid manual back and forth which concentrates the action on the rectal area, and no longer on the prostate. You will move away from your feelings. Introduce it and let it go, without intervening. The contractions of the sphincter will produce a movement back and forth natural. Let the sensations come.

Vibrations attention!

Vibrating sex toys are to be used with moderation. Indeed, with the vibration, the result is guaranteed, often at high speed and intensity. It can bring enjoyment of this area, more easily. However, there is the risk of overbidding, of wanting more and more, and in the long run anesthetizing sensations. The best is to alternate and savor the difference.